My wife just called, all excited to tell me I have to update the map again. Another day, a few more court rulings — and now same-sex marriages have begun in Kansas and North Carolina, and are cleared to begin in Idaho! Woohoo! This continues to be an absolutely amazing week for marriage equality. The shift in North Carolina feels especially meaningful for us. It’s where E’s parents had moved for retirement. After E’s dad died in 2010, E and I drove down there to help move her mom north. It was our first long trip as a married couple, and yet we spent it in a state where both legally and socially I was nothing more than E’s “friend.” (Yes, the kind of “friend” who will drive 1600 miles round trip and spend 10 days helping to clean out and pack up a house.) It felt very much like being in enemy territory. I know that people’s social attitudes don’t all change overnight, but what a difference to know the legal status can, and has.
65.8% of people live in places where same-sex married couples have all the same state and federal rights as opposite-sex married couples.
34.2% of people live in places where same-sex marriages are not recognized by the state.