M recently outgrew his underwear, so I was planning to buy more on my next shopping trip while he happened to be away. In general, M wears whatever clothes magically appear in his dresser drawers, but I know at some point he’ll start to have opinions about his clothing, so I’ve been trying to get in the habit of asking him for preferences. And so before M left, I asked if he wanted the same kind of underwear I’d always gotten him, or if he wanted something else. I thought maybe I’d get an answer like he’d prefer colored undershirts to white ones.
He turned rather red, then told me, “Most guys my age wear boxers.”
Oh. Not what I expected to hear, but I can go with this. I rummaged quickly through my incredibly limited knowledge of boxer shorts. “OK. I can get you some of those. Is there any particular kind that most kids have, like Joe Boxer brand, or ones with pictures, or just the plain ones with a dark plaid pattern?”
Fortunately for his overall embarrassment level, dark plaid seems to be the fashion. Got it.
And overall, I’m just really glad that I had asked him what he wanted. Considering that he felt awkward enough replying to a direct question (what do you want) with an indirect answer (most guys my age), I don’t think he’d have spontaneously told me what he wanted, or voiced any objection if more briefs had just magically appeared in his dresser. And I do really want him to feel like he fits in with the other guys. Even if he does have a mom who had no clue that he’d reached boxer age.