S here again. M and I had a discussion this morning about how he will explain to his best friend, the girl across the street, that E is moving in. His buddy will be away from now until after the move-in actually happens, so regardless of what approach we use, she’ll find out after the fact. (Her parents already know about E moving in, and are fine with the whole concept.) The girl supposedly currently has no clue that E and I are in a relationship. This is despite the fact that, on weekend mornings, E comes out of my bedroom in her pajamas, and feeds the kids if they ask her to.
Here are some of the approaches we’ve tossed around (and giggled about) that M could use:
Option 1: the generic lie. “E moved into the spare bedroom because everything is getting more expensive and this way she and mom can split costs of household stuff.”
Option 2: the ridiculous lie. “E moved in because she needed someone to vouch to her parole officer that she had a place to live.”
Option 3: general evasion. “Oh yeah, E is living here now. What do you want for breakfast?”
Option 4: some semblance of the truth. “E is living here now because she and my mom are really good friends. Like, a couple. Yeah. What do you want for breakfast?”
Option 5: say nothing, and wait for the neighbor girl to ask, “Why are there three extra bookcases in your living room, and a cat sitting on top of the hamster cage?”
I’d go with the parole thing…wait, option 5. Kids are smart, they’ll figure it out and won’t have to say a word. My kids’ friends all did.
I go with the let her figure it out, too. E already makes her breakfast, so maybe she figures that the existing introductions have been sufficient.
I’m trying to figure out what I’d say to a neighbor if I had a bf move in and am coming up blank. Aside from , “Oh, they live here now.”
Option 5, embellished: “Because the cat’s in love with the hamster.”
[...] 2, 2008 by newdoorknobs In our earlier post, we were pondering various ways for M to let his best friend, the girl across the street, know that [...]